‘Wife calling out lousy husband’ has long been a bonafide category of viral social media posts, but it never gets any less bleak. Every day, they go on the clock app and give unmarried straight women another reason to avoid men altogether. It’s extra fun when the woman in question is pregnant: what do you mean, she’s going through one of the most physically taxing processes a human body can go through and you’re still acting like that?

Up for scrutiny recently has been a situation that involves exactly this. A woman who was nine months pregnant shared a video of her pumping gas while her husband sat on his phone in the passenger seat. It’s fair to say that many viewers were not impressed with this arrangement. While pregnancy shouldn’t prevent you from doing some things, it’s also the small gestures that make a relationship worth it in the long run.