Grief is a terrible thing, and it affects everyone very differently. Some people can move on from the loss of a loved one surprisingly quickly, while others never get over it as long as they live. Even for a person as important as your life partner, the grieving process looks different for every individual. Some people can remarry within a couple of years of their husband or wife passing, and there’s nothing inherently wrong with that. Those relationships can thrive, even with the knowledge that the widow/widower fully loved their lost partner and very well might still be with them if they were around. A lot of complicated feelings can arise from being the partner of a widower, but that doesn’t mean those feelings are correct. Feeling jealous of a past spouse who is six feet under does not mean you should try to erase their memory because you both can’t and shouldn’t do that.