Here’s a difficult question: When are you supposed to tell your friend or loved one when someone says something terrible about them? I’d like to know if someone who is in my social circle that I really trust says something negative about me. While that’s good in theory, I’ve found it sometimes causes more problems than good in practice. One of my best friends (let’s call her Beth) told me something negative that one of our other friends (let’s call her Kathy) had said about me, and it really changed the way I felt about her. Worst of all, I didn’t feel like I could confront Kathy about it because then I would be exposing Beth. I don’t think Beth was in the wrong for telling me, but do I really want to negatively affect her friendship with Kathy because she did the right thing of telling me the truth?