One consequence of starting a family (if you’re an involved parent, that is) is that you can kiss goodbye to having any significant amount of time to yourself, at least in the first few years. That being said, it is understandable to plan for some rest or alone time if you have the resources. The only caveat is that it is vital that your co-parent can enjoy the same benefit.

Unfortunately, many couples find that it doesn’t work out that way. For the person who puts less effort into childcare, there is at best a level of denial at play, and at worst, an attempt at controlling and punishing their partner. Some individuals just don’t want to realize that a good parental relationship involves teamwork, and would prefer to always prioritize their wants and needs over what is best for everybody in the family unit. It can be a source of stress.