The limit (or lack thereof) that you put on your kid’s sugar intake is one of those classic moral quandaries that can define you as a parent. On the one hand, giving them free rein to eat whatever processed garbage they feel like is probably going to end badly; on the other, if you strictly limit these so-called ‘bad’ foods, they will likely take whatever opportunity they can to gorge themselves on them whenever you’re not looking.

This is a dilemma that one dad found himself facing after he fired a babysitter for not moderating how much candy his 4-year-old ate. Claiming that the young woman had allowed the child to eat 11 packs of gummy bears, some fellow parents were aghast—but others thought he was doing a lot of unnecessary pearl-clutching. Let’s be real, it’s likely that the sitter ate most of those tiny packets herself and was trying to cover her tracks.