When I was a kid, I knew I could never say something to my mom without my dad finding out immediately after. It kind of stinks when you’re a kid because sometimes you really want to complain about your mom to your dad without her finding out (and vice versa). You feel like you can never have a secret that is just between you and your parent. 

Now that I’m an adult, I not only totally understand why my parents operated this way, but I’m very glad they did. It’s not good to have secrets in your marriage, nor is it good to have a secret with your child that you’re keeping from their parent. It’s best to have everything out in the open within your marriage so you can take important steps together instead of navigating challenges on your own. What else is a marriage for if not sticking together?