Growing up in a family big enough to form its own soccer league means your wallet never gets a day off. Getting through college and coming home should feel like a breather, but it morphs into a running tab where every bill and every college dream comes with your name at the top. Suddenly, your savings are public news, and mom starts giving side-eye any time you buy a coffee or check your bank app. You start out just chipping in for rent, then get cast as the family’s personal ATM.

Oldest sibling duty in a household this size gets treated like a full-time gig, but nobody seems to want to pay for it. Any cash you squirrel away turns into a reason for everyone to sigh and start listing bills out loud at dinner. When someone needs tuition, you’re expected to just sign the check like it’s your life’s purpose.