35 years of friendship start circling the drain when one woman spends two years planning a small destination wedding, and her longtime friend, Becky, suddenly sprints to schedule a near copy of the same plan just ahead of her.  

The bride has a long-term partner, a clear timeline, a destination date, and a later hometown reception. Her friend Becky begs to officiate, cries when told no, and only stops after getting an invite she was never meant to have, then does not even bother to open the email or RSVP. Fast forward, and Becky gets engaged, immediately announces her own destination wedding with a local reception a few months later, and even times her bachelorette party for the week after. All of it is set before the original wedding, and she tells a mutual friend not to share dates, as if the whole thing is a secret launch.  

Mutual friends, who came into Becky’s life through the bride, start saying the quiet part out loud. The double set of events is financially draining, the timing feels deliberate, and the pattern is familiar. This is not the first time Becky has scheduled around someone else’s milestone and then tried to pull the same crowd. The bride feels copied, sidelined, and used, especially after being guilted into including someone who has done none of the basic courtesy that came with that performance.  

By 50, no one should have to litigate wedding dates with a supposed friend. Walking away and pulling the invites is less drama and more quality control.