I’ve never understood when aging parents solely rely on their kids to support them through retirement financially. These parents often use the justification that their children owe them moola for all of the years they spent raising them or they just failed to plan to support themselves into retirement. Some adult children feel great pride in helping their parents in anything they want and need. I don’t think that not wanting to finance 20-30 years of your parent’s life means that you are not honoring them as your parents. It’s a lot of stress supporting 3+ people, which doesn’t even begin to factor in your partner, kids, or other family members you might be helping. I believe that aiming for autonomy, even in old age, is an admirable goal. Also, there’s a big difference between sending money so your parents can stay in their house and eat and sending them money so they can go on elaborate vacations.