When you are getting screamed at almost constantly, it’s easy to get obsessed with the idea that you are the one causing the screaming. You start to recognize the things that can trigger the person, whether it be things you say, sounds you make, times of the day, or locations where they feel comfortable blowing a gasket. It takes a lot of energy to modify your behavior in ways to try to ensure you won’t get yelled at, and no matter how hard you try, you can’t control the choices another person makes. At the end of the day, it’s the screamer’s choice whether or not to scream for no good reason, and even if you do everything in your power to avoid being the object of their scorn, you can’t stop them. It’s easier said than done, but nobody should blame themselves for the erratic actions of another person, even if that person is their parent.