Every parent feels the shift when they no longer know everything about their kids. It usually starts when their children hit puberty and no longer feel the need to tell their parents about their day at school, the friends they make, and the experiences they go through.

And every parent has a small existential crisis when their children finally hit that stage, because it means their children are growing into independent people who, at some point, will no longer need their parents.

Every parent goes through this stage, and every parent deals with it differently. But here is a tip for how you should not deal with your children becoming their own people: Do not invade their privacy.

The parents in the story below did not follow this helpful tip when they decided to open their 28-year-old daughter’s mail without her knowledge. At 28 years old, this daughter is her own adult and is obviously entitled to her privacy, but her parents had no problem taking it away when they read her mail.

They also had no problem telling everything about what they read, including their daughter’s student loan debt…