A big income gap between partners does not give the higher earner the right to be dismissive.

Money is one of the most important topics in long-term relationships, and as a result, it is no surprise that it is often the source of arguments. In many cases, there is likely to be a partner who is a clear ‘breadwinner’, and that comes with a lot of responsibility—not least if they have dependents to pay for. It is a stressful role at a time when raising kids is more expensive than ever.

Still, just because somebody is the main earner in a family unit doesn’t mean that the professional commitments of their partner are totally irrelevant. They could be the thing that pays some essential bills, or simply gives them more of a disposable income to enjoy. It can also give them a necessary sense of purpose outside the home, and it might even be an avenue to explore a true passion of theirs. Nobody likes to feel like something that forms an important part of their life is irrelevant just because it doesn’t bring in as much money. Many people have a desire to work that transcends a need for income.