There is a difference between benefitting from the village and exploiting it. 

Most parents would agree that raising kids is a task that is best not done alone. Even if they want to be independent in their parenting, there will likely be times when they have to seek out alternative childcare. The reality is that the majority of moms and dads have lifestyles where they cannot be the person caring for their kids 100% of the time.

It is also no crime for parents to feel like they need a break from their children, even if they can make time to care for them on a practical level. In times like these, having a friend or family member who is willing to take on babysitting duties can be invaluable. They are a tool that allows a parent to maintain other parts of their life outside of their kids.

That being said, there is a fine line between enjoying free childcare from time to time and blatantly wanting to make the kids somebody else’s responsibility whenever it is most convenient for you. Even the most generous villagers will have their limits when it comes to looking after somebody else’s children for them.