A guest room can quickly become a source of family tension when no one agrees on when the «guest» is actually leaving.

First of all, I feel that both sides have their own rights. For instance, the married couple. I can imagine how happy they must have felt when they were able to afford their own home… moving in with your partner is very exciting, especially when it comes to finding a routine and having more privacy. I also love how they want to have the second room as a nursery for future kids…

That being said, now comes the mother explaining that she decided to use that second room as her own while she looks for a new place for herself. I understand that she may be feeling more relaxed when looking for a home after realizing that she can stay with her daughter, but it’s not okay when she feels entitled to move in instead of asking both of them if that is something they would be okay with.

Although u/Soft-Livvi and her husband said that they love the mother, they do feel uncomfortable having her around for a while, especially when they just purchased the home and want to have more time for themselves. In these types of situations, I feel like having a sincere conversation with the family member is the best approach, because maybe the mom was not aware she was being invasive. They can even find a middle ground and have all the parties happy.

Sometimes, parents don’t realize that their behaviours are out of place, and having a quick chat can really help them see the bigger picture. And, in this case, I feel this mother will be understanding and will only stay with the couple for weeks until she finds a place of her own.