Not every relationship has mastered the act of being healthy, but the ones that do are better. 

I believe that most people have been in a toxic relationship at least once in their life. And even though sometimes just one of the people who formed the couple is the one to blame for that, sometimes we have to admit that it is both of the people involved’s fault. I was in a toxic relationship once, and even though the other person was the one to blame the most, to say that I didn’t end up engaging in that kind of behavior would be a lie. Because that is the thing about those kinds of relationships: sometimes you were never the type of person who acted like that, at least not before the relationship. But once you start, it is like a force that cannot be stopped, so you end up acting in a way that you would have always condemned, and now that is wrong. But suddenly you forget that; you forget about your principles and your actual way of being. But there is no need to act like that. 

I know that getting out of a relationship that isn’t working can be extremely hard, and I’m not going to judge everyone for taking their time to do so. But it is very important to know when you are not being treated like you deserve. It is important that when you see or notice some kind of behavior that is not correct, you say something, even when you see it in other people’s relationships. Love is not toxic, not really. It will sound cheesy, but it’s important to understand that love is happiness, not crying till 4 a.m. because they treated you badly or they talked to you in a way that they shouldn’t have. 

You deserve to be treated with kindness, respect, and most importantly, love. Don’t ever doubt that. It is important that you feel loved in a relationship, not hated, mistreated, or less than you are. Why would you ever be in a relationship that mistreats you? That could be due to some low levels of self-esteem, so maybe you need to work on that. If you don’t love yourself, why would somebody else? It’s nice to be loved, but just because they say two nice things to you a month doesn’t mean that you are loved. Someone who loves you will show it every day, not only when they need something from you.