Should you be allowed to tell your partner what they can and can’t do with their morning?

There is a different balance of power in every relationship, and you never know who is comfortable with what. Everyone has a different set of boundaries, and those should be honored. But it’s hard to know what’s okay to ask and what isn’t, since everyone has differing ideas of what’s okay in a relationship. This is why we have friends. We need people outside of the relationship to give us a sense of what is and what isn’t right. You can’t rely on one person to validate all of your fears, since we’re all different people and nobody is infallible, but you can gauge a median kind of truth from a wide array of opinions. That’s what the woman in this story was doing when she reached out to the internet to get a little perspective on her relationship. She had a particular ask of her boyfriend, and she wanted to know whether or not it was reasonable. We all get a little insecure sometimes, and we’re allowed to seek reassurance where we need it. But asking for too much reassurance can be a surefire way to make someone back away. If you’re coming at it from a place of insecurity, you might need to double-check that you’re not just making your problems somebody else’s.