I never understood why someone would feel insecure about their partner making more money than they do. I figure the more cash that you have as a couple, the better. I would never arbitrarily wish that my partner were doing worse off than me financially, because I want the best things for my partner. If they are only scraping by and solely relying on me for any financial stability, especially before we’re married, that’s a bad sign. 

A lot of insecurity about salaries within relationships comes down to gender problems. Miranda Hobbes knows it well: successful men often don’t want to be with successful women because their independence threatens them. These men know these women don’t need them for survival, so they buzz off and try to find a woman who needs them more to satisfy the idea of themselves as big, manly providers who are all but irreplaceable.