People with complicated relationships with their parents are faced with many challenges when they finally get the chance to start their own family. When they have their own kids, they have to decide whether they want their kids to have a relationship with their grandparents, and that is not an easy decision to make. 

Sure, grandparents are great, but at the same time, those are still your parents. If they weren’t great at being parents, whose to say what they would be like as grandparents? Is that a risk you are willing to take, especially when your own kids are now involved?

For some people, the answer is yes, it is a risk they are willing to take. If it makes their kids happy, they will put aside their issues with their parents and gift their kids this experience. For other people, however, the answer is no. They do not want to subject their kids even to the possibility that their parents might act the same towards their grandchildren, and they would rather separate them while they still can.