There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to date someone because they’re not ambitious enough. It can sound cruel on paper, but you don’t want to be waking up next to someone too lazy to make enough money to support your family in 10 years. It’s essential to identify those red flags early in a relationship so you’re not caught off guard by them later. Some people are perfectly fine with getting with somebody who isn’t particularly ambitious in their career. Many people meet their partners when they’re still young and figuring out their life’s path. That being said, there are times when not hitting certain milestones is a red flag. At 25, I wouldn’t necessarily consider someone who still lives with their parents a «red flag,» especially if they’re making meaningful contributions to their household. But get back to me when I’m 35 or even 30, and I’ll probably be singing a different tune.