I could be mad at you, and I would still love you. Just keep that in mind.

We sometimes judge relationships and love as if they were something that could be measured or comparable to others. It isn’t. Each individual relationship has a whole history that only the people taking part in it know the whole story of. We can sometimes feel like our friends are in a couple that is toxic or not super healthy, and it’s a good thing to point it out. But the truth is that it’s always up to them to decide what they want to do about it. We can just point in the right direction, or at least what we believe is the right direction, but they will be the ones making the final decisions. After all, it is their business what they do with their life, who they love, and how they act upon it.

Some relationships may seem a little weird from the outside. Too cringe, too public, too crazy, or just a weird match in general. But it isn’t really our place to judge. When getting into a couple is normal to discover another side of you that you didn’t previously know. You may be one of those people who call their loved one «baby» while to everyone else you seem kind of unapproachable. Or you may seem shy to everyone else but incredibly chatty to your partner. That is actually the most beautiful thing about love. Getting to discover a whole new self because of the freedom and love that you feel towards the other person.

As I said, couples are only truly known by the people in them. So if you are kind of crazy or weird with your loved one, I’m not here to judge. Be as you want, be healthy and free. Is important to let our true self out, to lower our guard and get to love freely. We all deserve that. After all, if you love, you gain, so enjoy it. Be the person you want to be with the person you love the most –after yourself, of course.