Other people’s weddings are not about you. Plain and simple. Sure, it’s fun to dress up and party with your friends, but ultimately, you’re there to celebrate the couple. They should be the focal point of the evening, not you. But this is difficult for some folks to internalize. They see a wedding as an opportunity to show up and show out, without realizing that it’s disrespectful. 

It’s up to our friends and loved ones to call us out when we’ve behaved in an untoward way. If they won’t, then who will? Good friends will call each other out when they need to, knowing that it makes us all better people. But the truth can be hard to hear, even from those closest to you. That’s what happened in this story, where a woman’s repeated behavior at weddings caused some friction in her friend group. The way she saw it, she was just exercising her right to dress up. The way her friends saw it, she was going overboard and distracting from the main event. Everyone is allowed to wear what they want, but there are limits.