I hate when people think they have a say in the location or time of someone else’s wedding. Now, if you’re footing the bill, you should probably have some kind of a say in whether a destination wedding in Mexico for 200 guests is within your budget. But if you’re just a random friend or family member, you can either show up and enjoy the big day or decline the invitation if a wedding detail makes you so irate. It’s difficult enough to find a weekend that will work for the bride, groom, their bridesmaids, groomsmen, the venue, and the couple’s parents. If you’re not one of those people, you are probably not important enough to schedule the wedding around. If you have a conflict that is more important to you than the wedding, it’s your choice to make unless uncontrollable forces are preventing you from going, which happens but is rare.