Can he make him get his act together? 

Let’s say, for the sake of argument, you have a kid who is starting to show symptoms of failure to launch. He has attended little, if any, college, and does not have a consistent job. He spends most of his time at home, in his room, doing something on his computer, but you don’t know what. He doesn’t seem particularly discontent with this lifestyle, or at least he doesn’t seem to be trying to make any major changes to help him move out and start his own life. What would you do? Would you let him continue living in your house and eating up your groceries if he’s not in employment, education, or training? 

So many parents struggle with this situation, and they feel helpless because they don’t want to choose the nuclear option. They don’t want to kick their kid out of their house, but sometimes that is the only thing that will get a lazy person to change. Even though it might force their adult child to change for the better, it can also harm their relationship with each other, especially in the short run. The alternative of letting their adult child live at home and waste his life away for as long as he wants isn’t particularly appealing either. There has to be a middle ground between kicking your kid to the curb with no warning and letting them be their own worst enemy.