Little kids are the messiest monsters that ever lived, and there’s nothing you or I can do to stop that. I do not expect a two or three-year-old to be able to fully cut their chicken parmesan and eat it without transferring at least 40% of the bird onto their shirt, and neither should you! They are literally learning how to do everything from scratch, and their hands have minimal experience with transferring foodstuffs from their plates to their mouths. They had mom and dad do that for them for their first year, so they’re true beginnings at the skill of eating. I admire any toddler who eats with both hands and gets at least half of their meal into their stomach without problems. They’re doing a lot better than a lot of adults who have been eating for decades and still can’t figure out how to do it right.