Grief prompts people to do distasteful things, and family members are not exempt from the chaos—they’re usually the first on the chopping block, due to their proximity and, well, familiarity.

After losing someone near and dear to your heart, you want to hold onto everything you possibly can that reminds you of them. It could be that old orange sleep shirt with the holes in it, or your grandmother’s favorite spoon she used to scoop sugar into her tea with. These little things are no longer objects; they transform into a vessel of the loved one’s memory, to be held indefinitely until you are ready to let it go.

Now, imagine that your father left you handwritten letters after his passing. These letters are specifically meant for you, his child, and you keep that private correspondence close to your heart. After all, when you feel lonely and like nobody else understands you, your father is right there in the ink waiting to help. Then, your grandmother finds out about the letters… and demands every last one of them. What would you do? Scroll below to read about how this happened between a person and their grandmother.