Planning visits around the holidays requires so much communication. If you know that your husband’s family won’t tell you about their plans until the last minute, it’s essential to prioritize asking them first so you don’t miss out on the festivities. If your wife’s family tries to hog every second of all of the national holidays on the calendar, it’s important to put your foot down and tell them that you need to visit your family, too. Every family and set of inlaws is different and has different expectations of young couples, so it’s essential to not only consider said expectations but also consider what they might need to compromise on to ensure that you and your partner are happy. The couple in this story did nothing of the sort. While the girlfriend decided to plan everything because her boyfriend never planned anything, she didn’t tell him or his family their plans, leading to a complete communication disaster.