Starting a new job can be a whole ball of emotions: excitement, stress, and anxiety that they’ll figure out you lied on your resume about being the president of your high school’s debate team. Sorry, Vice President just doesn’t sound as good! It’s also the time when you’re figuring out the workplace ecosystem and how you fit into it. You’re picking up on behaviors, and slowly unfurling how things work. 

When you’re starting a new career, it can be hard to know what’s normal and what might turn into a messy sitch. It’s good to have a council of elders that can warn you that accepting payment in the form of Dave and Buster’s tokens probably isn’t a good idea. But if you don’t have a slew of mentors on speed dial, there’s always Reddit. U/lividtoby got the discourse started about what to look for at a new job, and what to duck and cover from.