There are so many holiday traditions that we accept to make other members of our family happy. It’s a form of giving to see The Nutcracker with your mom every year, even though you really don’t care about the Sugar Plum Fairy and her journey. A dad might not particularly enjoy risking his hide to put colorful lights on the roof every year, but he does it to make his kids smile. Like them or not, there’s a good chance that annual Christmas traditions make someone in your family happy, and that’s reason enough to continue doing them. 

What if you find yourself stuck doing a family tradition that you, your partner, and your siblings all really dislike? Would it be cruel to abandon the tradition in favor of a more convenient, cozy tradition that has the same bare bones as the old one? That’s what this eldest child took to Reddit to ask, and the responses are conflicted as they come.