Kids should be a little afraid of their parents. I’m not saying that it’s a net positive for children to be terrified that their parents are going to scream and holler at them for minor transgressions, but they shouldn’t feel like they’re the ones running the show. Parents who let their kids take the lead on every decision get steamrolled in their family, and they need to nip behavior like that in the bud if they’re going to be able to discipline or punish their kid when it is necessary. Again, I don’t think that constantly lording over your kids that you are the adult and they must obey you on everything is healthy. But if your kids are making decisions with the thought in the back of their heads that they don’t want to get in trouble with you, it will probably lead to them making more thought-out decisions.