In the early stages of dating, anything can be a red flag. The man in this story wondered if he was facing a huge one from the woman he was seeing, or if it was just a side effect of her profession.

Dating is all about finding out if you’re compatible. That’s the whole point of getting to know someone. And odds are, you’re probably looking for red flags every time you hang out. Maybe you’re not hunting for them, but you notice when they come up. If you’re anything like me, one little misstep could spell disaster for the relationship. You’re looking for signs that someone might not treat you how you’d like to be treated, because it’s better to know too soon than too late. The man in this story found himself in a particular kind of situation where the woman he was seeing did something pretty unusual. Or completely usual, if you’re coming at it from a different angle. He was dating a stand up comedian, and she did what comedians do best and used her life for stage material. The problem was, he didn’t know she would be airing his dirty laundry in front of an audience.