Is it wrong to change vacation plans when you think a proposal might be involved?

A woman asks her boyfriend to change the location of their anniversary trip and second-guesses her decision. He’d tossed out Curaçao first, a spot they’d joked about heading to because of a song they both loved, but she couldn’t shake the feeling that Costa Rica would offer more of the wildlife, culture, and adventure they seldom get to experience. Now she’s wondering if changing the plans was selfish, especially since she suspects a proposal may be on the horizon.

With all due respect, I think a lot of people have this. Let’s be real: when you have a specific amount of PTO each year, every trip becomes a huge deal, and of course, you want to make the best out of it. I’m on the OP side: she saw an opportunity for something she has been wanting for years, and politely suggested the idea.

The boyfriend, on the other hand, is just chilling with the idea. Well, actually… he’s been more than okay with the sudden change of plans and was already helping to book the new flights. However, she is the one who is carrying the anxiety about shifting the location on the trip for both of them. Surprise: that is how overthinkers work! You start worrying about something small, and the other person can’t seem to see the problem the way you do.

If there is an actual proposal coming, the location of the trip is less important. It doesn’t matter if they are hiking in Costa Rica or swimming in the crystal clear waters of the Caribbean: they are going to be celebrating their love and three whole years together.