Picking what to wear to a date is tricky business. You want to strike the right balance between effortful and comfortable while displaying your personal style. If you go too dressy, you might risk overshadowing your date. If you go too casual, you risk offending them. If you wear something you’re not comfortable in, you might not be able to pay enough attention to the conversation, and then the date will probably flop. 

But if it’s the right person, none of that will truly matter. The right person won’t even truly notice what you’re wearing, or they’ll like you enough to get past it if they hate it. That’s not what happened to one unlucky dater who was rudely done away with based on the state of his attire. And it’s all the more confusing given their date activity. Read on to find out the details, and see what commenters had to say in response.