Something shifts when you get married. You’re no longer just one little dude who can just hop on a plane to Switzerland to meet up with your boys from college for the weekend all by yourself, no questions asked. You and your partner are a package deal, and if you’re going to Switzerland, they’ll probably want to go to Switzerland, too. One of the best parts of marriage is that you have a built-in traveling companion, but if you want to engage in bachelor’s behavior, the love of your life can often prevent that kind of lifestyle.

It’s a pretty big slap in the face if your husband or wife is investing a ton of time, money, and effort for a vacation that you don’t even have the privilege of attending. A weekend boys trip to Tempe, Arizona, is one thing, but the excuses that this husband made not to include his wife in this vacation are ridiculous.