Becoming an adult means realizing that nothing is truly mandatory except for death and taxes. Sure, people may try to get you to do things, but you don’t have to. You might face the consequences of not doing them, but that’s your decision to make. This is especially true when it comes to weddings. You probably want to do the best you can to support your friend who’s getting married. You wanna be there for them and help make the day special. But there is a limit to how much you’re willing to put into that. Weddings are famously expensive affairs. 

They cost a lot of money, not just for the people throwing them, but for the people attending them. It’s up to you to decide how much you wanna spend on a special day that isn’t your own. This is even more true if you are part of the wedding party. Real friends won’t ask you to shell out more than you’re comfortable spending, especially on optional stuff. And I don’t know about you, but to me, a spray tan is definitely optional.