Using your vacation days on something you don’t want to go to is definitely not how you want to live your life. At least it’s not how most of us want to spend our lives. We probably want to be choosy about who gets our time and who gets our money, seeing as there’s not an infinite amount of it to go around. You most likely have places you’d like to visit, friends you’d like to see, and stuff you’d like to buy, so spending time and money on someone else’s vacation is not at the top of your list. 

It’s hard to be around people who you don’t get along with. It can take it out of you, mentally and emotionally. You might bend over backward trying to be their friend and then end up wishing you hadn’t. It’s better to know to choose your battles and let some things go.