Should breaking up with someone over an extreme allergy be considered judgmental…or boundary-setting? 

Imagine going out with someone who’s practically ‘perfect on paper.’ They’re funny, polite, and have that sort of sparkle in their eye that could hypnotize an entire crowd into doing whatever they say. By the second date, you’re already opening up to them as if they were an eager book club member, flipping through the pages of your life story. You’re spilling silly facts, silly memories, and yep…even sillier jokes to add to the table convo…as you begin to wonder, could this be the face who stands at the end of the aisle, or who reads The Gruffalo to our kids before bed….No, no, shake it off, ‘I’m getting ahead of myself’, you remind your overly ambitious self! 

But as you’re spilling facts, you notice his whole demeanor changes as you bring up your extreme peanut allergy…Sure, talks of marriage and kids didn’t scare him off…but mention of a nutritious legume will certainly do the trick. Typical men, getting the ick when you least expect it! Suddenly, you’re trying to confirm your third date, and instead of following through with the arrangement, he’s expressing how he couldn’t see himself dating a woman who’s allergic to peanuts…Proving that his desire for nuts will always outweigh his desire for an exciting, healthy relationship!…Okay…