Choosing how much to share about yourself to your employer can be a delicate dance. You want to feel like you’re being open and honest, but you also want to keep up a barrier of professionalism while you’re at work. You want to pepper in details about your personal life, but leave the more difficult stuff be. It can be a difficult line to strike, and one that takes some practice. It doesn’t help if your coworkers, or worse yet, your boss, don’t share your same respect for boundaries. 

That’s when a situation can go from normal to toxic. That’s exactly what happened to one Redditor whose boss repeatedly crossed lines and asked for personal information, beyond the usual standard of a working relationship. When the worker refused, it escalated. And after they finally summoned up the courage to quit and find another job, they got an unwelcome surprise. Read on for the story.