Most of the time, it’s important to encourage children to give their stepparents a chance. They should always come around to the idea of a second mother or father on their own time, but it’s against a child’s best interest to teach them that they should write people off before giving them a fair chance. Of course, not everyone deserves the attention of your children, and people are disappointing, so giving a child the freedom to make their own emotional decisions is equally important.

When your kids decide that they would rather live with you instead of your ex and their new spouse, you don’t waver. You’re their safe space, and if you could amply provide for them, why not?

The biological dad in the next story shares 50/50 custody with his ex-girlfriend, who is now remarried. The new spouse is upset about never spending Father’s Day or Christmas with his stepkids, and actively makes a fuss over this. Instead of getting what he wants through his entitled actions, he actually drives the stepchildren further away. Well, would you want a stepdad who throws tantrums? That’s reserved for the children. Scroll below to read the full story.