Because so much of the modern dating scene is centered around swiping on our phones, many wannabe lovers think that the blame for all its bad sides lies solely with the apps. What gets downplayed is that we contribute to these issues, too. Frankly, there are too many singletons out there dating from a place of complete and utter denial. No partner, however perfect, is going to wave a magic wand and make everything else in your life suddenly better. That disappointing man you’re coddling is never going to change for you, no matter how much time you spend painting those red flags white. Also, sometimes you are the problem.

People aren’t OK, but I get it. Nobody wants to spend their days being slapped with harsh truths, and doing painful, boring things like working on themselves. However, this is exactly what gets us in situations that are like some of the examples below. That, and there are a few genuinely disturbed individuals out there.